I’m not dating anyone (yet) but if and when I do, there’s no reason why they need to meet my children or anyone in my family unless it becomes serious.
But I don’t even know how to get to the point where I’m dating someone.
I’m still trying to figure out the rules on jumping back into the single scene.
After fifteen years with the same man, ten years of marriage and two kids, I now find myself single at 42 years old. My husband and I separated last summer but lived in the same house until I move into my own apartment last month. There are still some people who don’t know my husband and I are in the process of divorcing.
Establishing a new long-term relationship isn’t just possible, it’s actually incredibly likely.Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.Or, maybe you are the one who wants out of the marriage.When i was recently separated, I was sitting around one night and I got a call from a friend of mine, asking me to meet her, her husband and “some of his work buddies” at a local bar. I walked out the door in a pair of jeans that I probably couldn’t get one leg into today, and a sleeveless top that showed off my slim (at the time) arms.My kids were on vacation with my ex, so I had no child care issues. When I walked into the bar, my friend came rushing over to me.It didn’t matter how skinny I was, I was the big 4-1.